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Sandy Kaufmann Lovecoach✨

Sandy Kaufmann Lovecoach✨

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Was du in der Liebe erlebst ist eine Spiegelung der Liebe, die du für dich selbst hast und die du zu verdienen glaubst.

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Living well the forced isolation due to the coronavirus when you are single

Living well the forced isolation due to the coronavirus when you are single

 After almost 4 weeks of confinement you find yourself having more emotional waves or even feeling blue or more latent anxiety?It's normal, this period of forced isolation brings back all your reaction mechanisms related to survival such as the fear of loneliness or of ending up alone, the anxiety of an uncertain future, a feeling of uncontrollability or powerlessness in the face of the situation or finally a feeling of social abandonment.The article below is intended to give you some practical advice on how to better live this confinement when you are alone. Welcoming your emotions through the body Emotions are physiological reactions of the body. In order to calm them, you have to go through the body:- Breathing in and out by whistling calms the vagal nerve and releases emotional stress.- The ECAP method allows you to anchor and put down roots.- In case of anxiety you can calm your inner agitation related to the future by reconnecting to the present moment through your 5 senses:o Recognize FIVE things you see around you. It could be a pen, a dot on the ceiling, anything in your surroundings.o Recognize FOUR things you can touch around you. It could be your hair, a pillow or the floor under your feet.o Recognize THREE things you can hear. It can be any sound from outside: the road, music, birds, TV....o Recognize TWO things that you can smell, such as a kitchen smell, a perfume or a cosmetic product that you like.o Recognize ONE thing you can taste. A drink or something to eat.Compensating for social isolationThe sense of touch is the sense most deprived by the lack of social connections.A simple way to compensate for this lack of contact is to practice self-massage (e.g. according to Ayurvedic tradition with oil lightly heated by candlelight).An essential element is of course to continue to interact socially with family and friends or by participating in online group gatherings (yoga, meditation or sports for example).And finally a good way is to feel useful to others by helping them - by doing service you reconnect to the energy of love and get out of negativity. You can offer to help the elderly people in your building to do their shopping or to check up on them by phone. If you know how to sew you can help to make masks, you can support the local independents by consuming their products or simply you can offer an attentive listening to someone for whom living the situation is more difficult than for you. Watch the flow of informationIn this period of doubt there is an overabundance of information either alarming or to occupy the mind during this quarantine.This information overloads your brain, which has to "filter" more new information than usual in addition to your own reflections and emotional reactions, which can lead to more ruminant thoughts (little mental cycle) or even the onset of anxiety.To compensate for this excess of information there are two possibilities:- Decrease the amount of new information by limiting your access to only one (quality) source of information and by taking a break from social networks.- Increase your ability to "filter" this new amount of information by increasing your time for meditation or sports activities. You can download here a selflove meditationThis Kundalini yoga exercise can help you if you are already having ruminant thoughts.See the opportunities of containment by asking yourself the right questions.Your brain is an extraordinary tool that does everything it can to answer your questions or to confirm your assertions with examples.To see this confinement as a chance, you just have to ask yourself the right questions:- For example, instead of saying "It's hard to live this isolation", ask yourself "How can this forced isolation be an opportunity for me as a single person?" You will be surprised at the many possibilities that are open to you: you can start a personal life project that you care about, you can choose this moment to do some groundwork on your love life, you can organize or imagine what your next big trip will be, or simply look at how you can increase your wellness routine.- Instead of saying "I have to stop my partner search because of confinement," ask yourself "How can I continue my partner search while in segregation? You will be surprised to see that what was before confinement is still valid now, only the form changes (online):o You can still meet potential partners via video conferencing.o You can always meet a potential partner by doing group activities online (e.g. sports via Zoom, Instagram live or Facebook). The advantages of confinement in my opinionI see three big advantages:-This quarantine is a real opportunity to get to know your partner without being guided only by the chemistry of attraction which is stronger when you actually meet the person (pheromone effect). This confinement will help you to first get to know your partner on another, more intellectual level, to see if he shares the same values as you do (what is his attitude towards the pandemic, does he help his family or neighbors, will this forced quarantine make him change his consumption) before you get physically or emotionally involved with him. You will also discover his inner self, which will teach you a lot about him (his tastes, his independence).- This quarantine is the ideal opportunity to offer an individual coffee tête-à-tête to a colleague or acquaintance who attracts your attention more than others, which is normally more difficult because you see this person in a group. Now is the perfect opportunity to do this because people with children will not be able to join you and technology limits the number of people meeting simultaneously (4 on whatsapp for example).- Finally the quarantine forces you to face your relationship problems. Very often, when you are single, you occupy your mind by investing in other activities. This time of crisis is an opportunity to redefine what is essential to you, to face this unhappiness, to take the time to make an assessment and understand why you are alone, why you repeat certain patterns in love. It is an essential step to definitively get out of your celibacy, avoid repeating the same mistakes to finally realize your dream of being happy as a couple.Prepare your summer of loveQuarantine is ALMOST over, you feel ready to date again and you would love to transform your summer flirt into a real relationship?With this 4 weeks online program to take stock and understand what keeps you from opening up to love and and transform your flirt into a real relationship.ModulesModule 1: Assess your love storiesModule 2: Identify how your past influences your love patterns.Module 3: Understand what you have done wrong so far, especially in terms of behaviour and communication.Module 4: To be clear about the relationship and the right partner for youOrganization: -4 Live webinars posted in a private Facebook group to explore each program topic in depth-1 workbook in pdf format with the exercises for each module.-Once you have completed the first 3 modules, you can email me your answers to the exercises to get personal feedback on what blocks you most in your relationships.-1 live webinar to identify the origin of one of your love patterns in your past-Once a week you will have the opportunity to ask your questions in the group and I will answer them in a live webinar.Duration from 9th of May until 31st of MayOrt : Online, Replay possibleINFORMATION AND REGISTRATIONTestimonials of the last participants:  

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